There’s an inexplicable high one gets holding a new born baby after pushing them out into the world. It’s like an out of body experience, a floaty ‘I can’t believe I just did this/I’ve never known love like this’ feeling that is extremely overwhelming. Or maybe it’s the literal high from taking in a bunch of gas and air. Either way, nothing beats the relief felt after pushing through birthing pains.
There’s also something about bringing new life into the world that makes one super reflective. You just can’t help but evaluate your life after looking into the eyes of the one whom you have been chosen to guide, nurture and care for.
For years I’ve dealt with the inconsistency of my life’s fruitfulness. I’ve started and stopped projects (mainly consistently writing on this blog) and have had to live with the feeling of knowing I’ve left seeds scattered in fertile soil just waiting to be nurtured. I’m also aware that I tend to stop nurturing them when I feel overwhelmed with the thought of successfully reaching my expected end. That fear of somehow looking like a fraud despite knowing I’m capable of reaching my goal. But now being a mother for the second time in two years and having to go through birthing pains I realised that the thing about pushing through is that you can’t stop when you’re half way to the baby coming out, in fact that’s when you push the hardest.
Unlike with actually pushing through birthing pains, when it comes to the hard tasks of life it’s easy to turn back and run when the going gets tough. For example, it’s like going for a promotion at work but sabotaging or discouraging yourself by not fully applying yourself when it counts most for fear of the responsibility the position carries but knowing fully well that you are qualified for the role or you have been positioned to take on the role due to experience.
The pressure felt before a big change are like the contractions building up over time. It feels painful but you can still bear it and you know that you have to bear it to get to hold your new born in your arms after nine long months of imagining and preparing for life on this new level. The undeniable pain that comes with the urge to push is your new life breaking through.
Going through those pains taught me that whatever it is that I want in life I’ll just have to feel the fear and go for it. The birthing pains of life come when we comit ourselves to purpose and passion. They can be frightening because they cause us to be uncomfortable, put ourselves out there and change the course of our lives and even cause us to take control and accountability for our lives.
Or maybe your birthing pains are coming from finding yourself stuck in a tough situation, possibly with family or friends, lack of self belief, lack of support, or maybe you’ve lost it all and you’re having to rebuild. I remember the both times I went to the Birth Centre with birthing pains I went with the boldness of knowing I wanted to attain the reward for enduring such pain. I knew I had to endure the pain to hold my babies for the first time and bring them home. I was in pain but I wasn’t focused on the pain, my eyes were on the prize. It got me thinking, why can’t I take this boldness in everything I do. Advancing my career, getting financially stable, raising my children in the way of the Lord, honouring God in my marriage and the list goes on.
I don’t know what you may be going through, but if like me you are feeling the urge to push through the pains of uncertainty, discouragment or fear to give birth to that precious idea or gift that you have been nurturing I encourage you to push through. The world is waiting for your gift, your contribution and your light.
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not disaster to give you a future and a hope.”